National Delurker Day and The Post That Almost Wasn’t
January 14, 2010 by Nicole Ibarrondo
Filed under Blog Talk, Pink & Private
I was reading a friends post this morning titled “National De-Lurking Day” and in all honestly I thought it was just another one of her clever blog post, not realizing it was indeed an actual blogging “thingy”. I googled the term and found out that National Delurker Day refers to the day you do a blog post encouraging all your blog readers to comment. Not so much the readers that normally leave comments but the one’s that get off on stalking you drop by, read your post and keep it moving. Since we here at pink & posh have about 1100 subscribed readers now and maybe 2 comments per blog post on average, I thought this would be perfect for us.
Coincidentally I wrote a blog post this morning that was going to remain unpublished, forever, but National Delurking Day made me totally rethink that decision. So here it is, my very first tell-all (kinda) post in seek of your feedback.
The Post That Almost Wasn’t
Occasionally I get a little personal here on Pink & Posh. I’ve written about my cooking skills (or lack of) from time to time, I’ve openly discussed my weight issues, I might have knocked my husband a few times here and there and I’ve even introduced my daughter and her quirky ways a couple of times. It’s been this way for the entire two years that I’ve been blogging, I give some info, but never too much. I’ll let you in, but not all the way.
Ironically, in my personal life I’m pretty much an open book, some might even say that I talk a little too much about my issues, emotions, relationships and so on. But for some reason I was never able to fully open up on the Internet. Maybe it’s an insecurity about by writing skills, a fear of rejection, lack of confidence, maybe it’s a mixture of all of the above. Whatever the case may be, I think I’m ready to tackle it.
Now I’m not saying that you guys are going to be in for a shock, like this extraordinary writer with amazing stories of triumph is about to emerge, but I’d like to give it a shot. I think I’d like to attempt touching on subjects that I’ve only given well-hidden clues about in the past. Experiences such as being a victim of domestic violence or having to watch my mother pass away from AIDS when I was a teen.
Come to think of it, I probably do have a lot of stories to tell, but my main concern is if anyone actually wants to hear them. Do other people really want to know what it’s like to be married to an alcoholic? Will I get shunned for still not feeling like a mother after three years of actually being one? Will I have enough insight to explain why I think my C-Section turned me into an asexual being? If I shared my own stories of drug and alcohol abuse would this scare people away? Should I care?
I’d like to hear your thoughts. Maybe this sort of stuff isn’t what you’d like to see on Pink & Posh? Maybe it is. Perhaps I should finally consider having my own personal blog, to separate the two. Or maybe, just maybe, some things are better left unsaid. It makes me kind of mysterious, don’t you think?
So whether or not you want to hear my sob stories and high glories, leave a comment below. Tell us how you think we’re doing. Want more fab, less drab? Want to get to know all of us better? Wish we’d just shut up already? Dish it out, we can take it.
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I think you should let it all loose! I love your blog and have been following for ~1 year. Just yeah. never comment. I’ll try to do so more often!
I agree. If you feel like letting it all hang out there, go for it.
Sometimes it just feels good to get it all out! And…you’d be surprised how many people acutally DO care! I too had no idea what national delurking day was either until I read this!
Let it all out! Yeah, like I’m one to talk. LOL I’m in the same boat though!
I think your doing GREAT !
I will if you will. hehe. We could do them together.
Hi Nicole! It is nice to know what National Delurker Day is! I actually wrote some personal stuff on my blog today about my family. Most days I just don’t know what to do! I do think we have all lived interesting lives and I think it only helps to write or talk about them. We are still going to be here!
I don’t want to be a lurker, so here is a comment. It’s your blog, do what you want
I love for people do use their blogs as they wish – as their personal journals or vents or just their writing adventures. Those are the most interesting ones to read for me. Ones where you really get to know the people writing the blogs.
I wish I had read this post earlier. I know that it is hard to put yourself out there for every Tom, Dick or Harry (or probably more like Jane, Susan and Mary) to read and pass judgment. I for one would love to know more about you – no judgments here.
I like a bit of PERSON-ality in Blogs. It helps me to know if I can relate to this person. When I first found this Blog I seriously thought it was first, a more “professional” Blog (a compliment, but i.e. as in a Blog created by a magazine/high end company) and not a Blog of an actual being that does all this research for us. I also thought you were probably a young 20 something model type that eats veggies all day and goes to the most posh clubs at night. LOL I had to read quite a few things to realize that you were a “normal” gal. I liked some of the articles so I still came back to read but rarely comment (sorry), and entered a few choice giveaways at times (I am also still pretty new so you have probably only seen me around since Nov/Dec 2009).
I don’t think you have to put your “hurt” out there unless you need to as a way of release. You don’t have to be bubbly, syrupy, happy all the time either, though.
Some great informational, awareness posts, and then posts about what you had to contend with this week or what is to come in the next is cool. As a reader I like to relate to Bloggers I read. Your Blog is well put together though and still catches my eye. I do post more at other Blogs though… (again, sry)
If anyone sets out to read your Blog and judges you for that, shame on them! If they don’t like what they are reading, go away… LOL
Good post BTW-